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How to Manage Arguments – Strathclyde Associates Talk!

Arguments keep relationships healthy and motivating. Most people would suggest that you should avoid arguments if you want to keep a stronger and lasting relationship. However, without some discussions from time to time, there would be little opportunities for both you and your partner to reconcile your differences and work out your similarities. The secret is not to avoid arguments but to manage them. Below are some helpful advice on how you can manage arguments with your partner and share a blissful partnership with him/her:

Manage your emotions. Never let your emotions dictate your actions. When you are angry, avoid speaking or you might end up shouting or saying hurtful words to your partner. Sometimes when people are furious, they tend to harm others physically which might lead to serious injury or a case of abuse. Learn to control your feelings. Most of the time being silent and keeping a space away from your partner help you reflect on the situation that got both of you in an argument.

Be open-minded and understanding. As you reflect on the situation, allow yourself to tackle your partner’s point of view. Do not dismiss your partner’s argument and accept yours as the only valid one. Remember that no two person can be exactly the same. You must learn how to value your partner’s views and opinions, and acquire the virtue of being empathetic, accepting, and appreciative.

Be forgiving. Whoever started the fight, always be in the lead of forgiving your partner. Never blame yourself or your partner. Keep in mind that differences do exist and that you must embrace them if you truly love your partner. Saying a sincere apology also helps your partner calm down and consider your emotions and views, too. A relationship is not a competition; it is an emotional connection, thus you should never wait for your partner to apologize. Admit that you were also wrong and that you want to work your differences out together. When your partner was the first one to apologize, accept immediately and initiate a peaceful discussion between the two of you.

Be a sincere listener. When both of you are already calm, try to listen to what each other has to say. Avoid interrupting your partner when he/she is explaining his/her point of view. Show understanding and respect by listening sincerely and intently. Problems are usually resolved when matters are talked over .
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